teaching our children well

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It seems that more of us have been “Heathered” at one time or another in life. Although it makes me feel better to know that I am not alone, I feel terrible that it happened to any of us at all.

My husband, Ryan, read Jen’s blog and remarked on something that I have also thought about all these years, the glaring hypocrisy of how girls and boys are viewed, or treated in many situations. He said that in Jen’s situation she was labeled a “slut” (as is most always the case in high school situations such as this), but what about the boy? Typically, the girl is referred to as a slut (or similar name), yet the boy is often placed on a pedestal for his sexual conquests. Of course, as adults this hypocrisy is blatantly clear, but as children and young adults it is unseen and hurtful. I think this merits working on, to make sure that at least our children understand that this hypocrisy is wrong.

Of course, it was high school and there was a boy in the middle of all the “mean girl” stuff for me. It bothered me at the time that the boy was able to keep all of his friends, still live his life, and not have anybody treat him badly. The fact that he had done something wrong was ignored (and probably celebrated) for the most part.

That being said, the more important part of this event is not so much what happened, but that I want to do everything I can to teach the little guy to treat girls with respect. No girl should be treated as if they can be cast off when the next best thing comes along. As I mentioned before, I want to teach baby girl about being a kind and strong girl/woman, but it is just as critical to teach our young boys to be kind, strong and respectful of girls (and truly all people regardless of gender).

When it comes down to it the old adage is true: “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”

home is…teaching our children well.

3 thoughts on “teaching our children well

  1. Tracy Small says:

    I think it starts with parents changing the way they teach their children the facts of life. So many parents I know “worry” about their girls getting pregnant and having sex and they don’t worry the same way about their boys. We need to tell our boys the responsibilities they have and will have should they get a girl pregnant and hold them to that. I have actually had someone tell me, “Thank God I had boys so I don’t have to worry about teen pregnancy.” WHAT??????? Come on, I’m sure if you have children then you have figured out that it takes 2 people to get pregnant.

    I know it is hard to talk with your kids about sex. Especially nowadays because it seems like many teenagers have gone back to the 60s way of free love thinking. When I heard that oral sex was rampant on our high school busses where we live, I was mortified to have to talk to my 12 year old (at the time) son about it. But, I’m the adult so I had a very frank discussion about what was happening on the busses and how something like that can effect people emotionally (both people…boy and girl) as well as the health risks.

    We can change the world…one totally cute and adorable and well-loved child at a time!

    • stephany @ home is what you make it says:

      Thanks for your comment Tracy! You would definitely know about raising boys!!
      I agree with you, but I think it starts even before we discuss the birds and the bees. I think it starts with showing children that mommy and daddy respect eachother. Then, basic respect and being accepting of peoples differences needs to be taught at a very young age. And, as you communicate about these things through the years, hopefully an open line of communication is there so discussing the birds and the bees, and anything else, will be easy for you and your children.
      I know it is easier said than done, though. Most things in life are…

  2. Autumn says:

    I agree with you wholeheartedly. Our boys will be expected to abide by the same morals and values as we hold our girls to. Basically for us it’s easy. We teach them all together and whatever God says is wrong – they should not do. If any of them happen to cross a line at any time in their life there will be big consequences to pay. And the teaching definitely has to start as soon as they’re born because they are always testing us!

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